Profil TheWriterInBlack:

Grundlæggende oplysninger Fortæl os lidt om dig selv.

Jeg beskriver mig selv som I am a writer of science fiction and fantasy who lives with his daughter, three dogs, and two ferrets. I work in sci-tech during my day job. Love goth and metal music. Looking for friendship, dating, and we'll see what develops. I am trying to make "Viking goth" a thing. I have an interest in knives, swords, and other blades and have a modest collection. I also have an interest in guns and do shoot Also, what I want from government is to mostly stay away.

When it comes to personal interactions I tend to have two modes.

One I term "deer in the headlights." Basically, I have no idea what to say. I freeze. It's not just a matter of I need a second to think, I really just have no clue what words should come out of my mouth. I have had folk tell me that this comes off as brusque or downright rude. And, well, I'm not intending to be it's just that a combination of social anxiety and utter cluelessness causes me to freeze. You can be my best friend in the world and I still have no idea what to say.

The second mode is when you get me going on a subject I'm passionate about. Then, the problem is the exact opposite; getting me to shut up. I get motivated about the topic and...well, that just takes over.

There are a couple of lesser modes for special situations as well.

The first of these is "polite greeting." "Hi." "How are you." "Nice day." "Things going well?" "Take care. Have a nice day." Basically "canned" phrases (which doesn't mean that they aren't well meant) that I have sometimes heard described as "polite noises." I can do that. I can even be sincere about it. It's just, you run out of those pretty quickly.

The last is "on stage presence" which is what I use when doing panels at cons or when doing training related to my work. It's sort of a toned-down version of mode 2 that relies on the more formal structure of a panel discussion or a training session to keep me from going overboard as I am wont to do without that structure.

The observant reader will note that what's lacking in there is a "mode" that is useful for social interactions, in particular for meeting new people. It is no great surprise that virtually all of my friends are folk I've met through science fiction conventions and thus were able to interact with initially via "on stage presence". Online also comes closer to that "on stage" than any in person interactions and, so is behind most of the _rest_ of my friends--those I didn't meet through cons, I "met" online. Indeed, I tend to be a lot more "open" online than I'd ever dream of being face to face with all but my absolutely closest friends.

And this lack is one of the major challenges of my life: how to actually meet and get to know people in "meat space" beyond the rote (although never empty, not for me) pleasantries.
Underskriv Stenbukken

Udseende & Situation Hvad er din nuværende situation? Beskriv dit udseende.

Min kropstype er Kraftig
Min højde er 175 cm
Mine øjne er Blå
Min etnicitet er Kaukasisk
Min civilstand er Skilt
Jeg har børn Ja - hjemme
Jeg vil have børn Ja
Kropsudsmykning Piercet... Men kun øre(r)
Mit hår er Andet
Jeg har en eller flere af disse Hund, Eksotisk dyr
Villig til at flytte Nej

Mere om ham

Hvilken genre musik kan du bedst lide? Andet
Hvem er dit foretrukne band? Probably The Sisters of Mercy, or any one of several gothic/symphonic metal bands
Hvem er din yndlings forfatter? Hard to say. Who have I read most recently?
Hvem er din foretrukne person fra litteratur? This may seem odd, but Batman
Hvilken side er den bedste om Goth kultur? YouTube channels like Toxic Tears'.

Status Hvad laver du?

Mit uddannelsesniveau er Universitetsgrad
Min nuværende ansættelsesstatus er Fuldtid
Mit speciale er Forskning / videnskab / ingeniørarbejde
Min jobtitel er Sr. Analytical Scientist
Jeg tjener så meget på et år Fra $60.000USD til $74.999USD
Jeg bor Med børn, Med kæledyr
Hjemme Alt er roligt
Jeg er ryger Nej
Jeg drikker Ja - en eller to

Personlighed Hvordan handler du? Hvilken smag har du?

I gymnasiet var jeg Nørd
Min sociale opførsel er Reserveret, Genert
Mine interesser og hobbier er Læsning, Musik, Tv, Internet, Fisk / jagt
Min idé om at have det sjovt er Være sammen med venner, Prøve noget nyt, Læse en bog, Gå på museum
En ideel første date ville være Something interesting, like a museum or other place where we can talk but where there's something to do if conversation lags.
Jeg har altid villet prøve Skydiving, SCUBA diving, exploring places nobody's been before.

Synspunkter Syn på livet.

Min religion er Agnostiker
Jeg deltager i tjenester Aldrig
Mit mål i livet er To make some small mark in the world.
Min form for humor er Tør / sarkastisk, Obskur

Smag Hvad kan du lide?

I tv ser jeg altid Dramaer
Når jeg går i biografen ser jeg altid en Handling, Science Fiction, Comedy, Romantik, Drama, Animation, Gys, Thriller
Når jeg hører musik, lytter jeg altid til Rock, Metal
Når jeg læser, læser jeg altid Fantasy, Fiktion, Gys, Science Fiction, Jeg er forfatter, Romantik

Leder efter Hvad søger du?

Hvad finder du attraktivt? Følsomhed, Humor, Omtanke, Intelligens
Hvad leder du efter? I'll be honest. I'm not sure. Part of what I'm looking for is to find out what I'm looking for.
Hvilken type forhold leder du efter? Ven, Dato, Intim