Profil TheWriterInBlack:

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Jeg vil beskrive meg selv som I am a writer of science fiction and fantasy who lives with his daughter, three dogs, and two ferrets. I work in sci-tech during my day job. Love goth and metal music. Looking for friendship, dating, and we'll see what develops. I am trying to make "Viking goth" a thing. I have an interest in knives, swords, and other blades and have a modest collection. I also have an interest in guns and do shoot Also, what I want from government is to mostly stay away.

When it comes to personal interactions I tend to have two modes.

One I term "deer in the headlights." Basically, I have no idea what to say. I freeze. It's not just a matter of I need a second to think, I really just have no clue what words should come out of my mouth. I have had folk tell me that this comes off as brusque or downright rude. And, well, I'm not intending to be it's just that a combination of social anxiety and utter cluelessness causes me to freeze. You can be my best friend in the world and I still have no idea what to say.

The second mode is when you get me going on a subject I'm passionate about. Then, the problem is the exact opposite; getting me to shut up. I get motivated about the topic and...well, that just takes over.

There are a couple of lesser modes for special situations as well.

The first of these is "polite greeting." "Hi." "How are you." "Nice day." "Things going well?" "Take care. Have a nice day." Basically "canned" phrases (which doesn't mean that they aren't well meant) that I have sometimes heard described as "polite noises." I can do that. I can even be sincere about it. It's just, you run out of those pretty quickly.

The last is "on stage presence" which is what I use when doing panels at cons or when doing training related to my work. It's sort of a toned-down version of mode 2 that relies on the more formal structure of a panel discussion or a training session to keep me from going overboard as I am wont to do without that structure.

The observant reader will note that what's lacking in there is a "mode" that is useful for social interactions, in particular for meeting new people. It is no great surprise that virtually all of my friends are folk I've met through science fiction conventions and thus were able to interact with initially via "on stage presence". Online also comes closer to that "on stage" than any in person interactions and, so is behind most of the _rest_ of my friends--those I didn't meet through cons, I "met" online. Indeed, I tend to be a lot more "open" online than I'd ever dream of being face to face with all but my absolutely closest friends.

And this lack is one of the major challenges of my life: how to actually meet and get to know people in "meat space" beyond the rote (although never empty, not for me) pleasantries.
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Utseende & Situasjon Hva er din nåværende situasjon? Beskriv ditt utseende.

My Kroppstype er Tyngre
Min høyde er 5 '9 (1,75 m)
Øynene mine er Blå
Min etnisitet er kaukasisk
Min Sivilsituasjon er Skilt
Jeg har barn Ja - bor hjemme
Jeg vil ha barn Ja
Kropps kunst Piercing ... Men bare ørene
Mitt hår er Annet
Jeg har en eller flere av disse Hund, Eksotisk dyr
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Mer om ham

Hva slags musikk liker du best? Annet
Hva er ditt favoritt band? Probably The Sisters of Mercy, or any one of several gothic/symphonic metal bands
Hvem er din favoritt forfatter? Hard to say. Who have I read most recently?
Hvem er din favorittperson fra litteraturen? This may seem odd, but Batman
Hva er den beste nettsiden om goth-kultur? YouTube channels like Toxic Tears'.

Status Hva gjør du?

Min Utdanningsnivå Er Universitetsgrad
Min nåværende arbeidssituasjon er Fulltid
Min spesialitet er Forskning / Vitenskap / Ingeniør
Minn jobb tittel er Sr. Analytical Scientist
Jeg tjener så mye på et år $60,000USD Til $74,999USD
Jeg bor Med barn, Med kjæledyr
Hjemme Alt er rolig
Jeg er en røyker Nei
Jeg drikker Ja - En eller to

Personlighet Hvordan opptrer du? Hva er din smak?

Når jeg gikk på skolen, var jeg Nerd
Min sosiale atferd er Reservert, Sjenert
Mine interesser og hobbier er Lese, Musikk, Tv, Internett, Jakt / Fiske
Min idé av å ha det gøy er Være med venner, Prøve nye ting, Lese en bok, Gå på museum
En ideel første date vil være Something interesting, like a museum or other place where we can talk but where there's something to do if conversation lags.
Jeg har alltid hatt lyst til å prøve Skydiving, SCUBA diving, exploring places nobody's been before.

Visninger Syn på livet.

Min religion er Agnostiker
Jeg går på gudstjeneste Aldri
Mitt mål i livet er To make some small mark in the world.
Min humoristiske sans er Tørr / Sarkastisk, obskur

Smak Hva liker du?

På TV ser jeg alltid på Drama
Når jeg går på kino, går jeg alltid for å se en Action, Science Fiction, Komedie, Romantikk, Drama, Andirektemeldingasjon, Skrekk, Thriller
Når jeg hører på musikk, så hører jeg alltid på Rock, Metall
Når jeg leser, så leser jeg alltid Fantasi, Fiction, Skrekk, Science Fiction, Jeg er forfatter, Romantikk

Leter etter Hva ser du etter i din sjelevenn?

Hva finner du attraktivt? Følsomhet, Humor, Omtanksfull, Intelligens
Hva ser du etter? I'll be honest. I'm not sure. Part of what I'm looking for is to find out what I'm looking for.
Hva slag forhold søker du? Venn, Dato, Intim