Profil TheWriterInBlack:

Informations de base Parlez-nous un peu de vous.

Je me décrirais comme I am a writer of science fiction and fantasy who lives with his daughter, three dogs, and two ferrets. I work in sci-tech during my day job. Love goth and metal music. Looking for friendship, dating, and we'll see what develops. I am trying to make "Viking goth" a thing. I have an interest in knives, swords, and other blades and have a modest collection. I also have an interest in guns and do shoot Also, what I want from government is to mostly stay away.

When it comes to personal interactions I tend to have two modes.

One I term "deer in the headlights." Basically, I have no idea what to say. I freeze. It's not just a matter of I need a second to think, I really just have no clue what words should come out of my mouth. I have had folk tell me that this comes off as brusque or downright rude. And, well, I'm not intending to be it's just that a combination of social anxiety and utter cluelessness causes me to freeze. You can be my best friend in the world and I still have no idea what to say.

The second mode is when you get me going on a subject I'm passionate about. Then, the problem is the exact opposite; getting me to shut up. I get motivated about the topic and...well, that just takes over.

There are a couple of lesser modes for special situations as well.

The first of these is "polite greeting." "Hi." "How are you." "Nice day." "Things going well?" "Take care. Have a nice day." Basically "canned" phrases (which doesn't mean that they aren't well meant) that I have sometimes heard described as "polite noises." I can do that. I can even be sincere about it. It's just, you run out of those pretty quickly.

The last is "on stage presence" which is what I use when doing panels at cons or when doing training related to my work. It's sort of a toned-down version of mode 2 that relies on the more formal structure of a panel discussion or a training session to keep me from going overboard as I am wont to do without that structure.

The observant reader will note that what's lacking in there is a "mode" that is useful for social interactions, in particular for meeting new people. It is no great surprise that virtually all of my friends are folk I've met through science fiction conventions and thus were able to interact with initially via "on stage presence". Online also comes closer to that "on stage" than any in person interactions and, so is behind most of the _rest_ of my friends--those I didn't meet through cons, I "met" online. Indeed, I tend to be a lot more "open" online than I'd ever dream of being face to face with all but my absolutely closest friends.

And this lack is one of the major challenges of my life: how to actually meet and get to know people in "meat space" beyond the rote (although never empty, not for me) pleasantries.
Signe Capricorne

Apparence & situation Comment êtes-vous? Décrivez votre apparence.

Ma silhouette est Baraqué(e)
Ma taille est 5' 9 (1.75 m)
Mes yeux sont Bleus
Mon origine ethnique est Caucasienne
Ma situation maritale est Divorcé/e
J'ai des enfants Oui - chez moi
Je veux des enfants Oui
Art Corporel Oreilles percées
Mes cheveux sont Autre
J'en ai 1 ou plus Chien, Animal exotique
Prêt(e) à vivre ailleurs Non

Plus sur lui

Quel genre de musique préférez-vous? Autre
Quel est votre groupe préféré? Probably The Sisters of Mercy, or any one of several gothic/symphonic metal bands
Quel est votre écrivain préféré? Hard to say. Who have I read most recently?
Quel est votre personnage de littérature préféré? This may seem odd, but Batman
Quel est le meilleur site sur la culture Goth? YouTube channels like Toxic Tears'.

Statut Que faites-vous dans la vie?

Mon niveau d'éducation est Diplôme d'études supérieures
Ma situation professionnelle actuelle est Plein-temps
Mon domaine de compétence est Recherche / Science / Ingénierie
Mon titre de fonction est Sr. Analytical Scientist
J'ai gagné cette année De 60,000 € à 74,999 €
Je vis Avec mes enfants, Avec des animaux
Chez moi C'est plutôt calme
Je fume Non
Je bois de l'alcool Oui - de temps à autres

Personnalité Comment vous comportez-vous? Quels sont vos goûts?

Au lycée, j'étais un/e Fana d'informatique
Socialement, je suis plutôt Réservé, Timide
Mes passions et loisirs sont Lecture, Musique, Télévision, Internet, Pêche / Chasse
Un bon moment pour moi c'est Sortir avec des amis, Faire de nouvelles expériences, Lire, Aller au musée
Un premier rendez-vous idéal, ce serait Something interesting, like a museum or other place where we can talk but where there's something to do if conversation lags.
J'ai toujours voulu essayer Skydiving, SCUBA diving, exploring places nobody's been before.

Points de vue sur la vie Vos valeurs et points de vues.

Ma religion c'est Agnostique
Je vais à la messe Jamais
Mon but dans la vie c'est To make some small mark in the world.
Mon sens de l'humour est plutôt Sarcastique, Obscur/e

Goûts Qu'est-ce que vous aimez?

A la télévision, je regarde Drames
Quand je vais au cinéma, je regarde toujours Action, Science-fiction, Comédies, Romantiques, Drames, Animation, Horreur, Thrillers
Quand j'écoute de la musique, ce que je préfère c'est Rock, Metal
Quand je lis, ce que je préfère c'est Fantaisie, Fictions, Horreur, Science-fiction, Je suis auteur, Romantiques

Recherchant un/e Que recherchez-vous chez l'âme sœur?

Que trouvez-vous attirant? Sensibilité, Humour, Délicatesse, Intelligence
Que recherchez-vous? I'll be honest. I'm not sure. Part of what I'm looking for is to find out what I'm looking for.
Quel type de relation recherchez-vous? Vrai‧e ami‧e, Rendez-vous, Relation intime