Profilul TheWriterInBlack:

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Mă descriu ca I am a writer of science fiction and fantasy who lives with his daughter, three dogs, and two ferrets. I work in sci-tech during my day job. Love goth and metal music. Looking for friendship, dating, and we'll see what develops. I am trying to make "Viking goth" a thing. I have an interest in knives, swords, and other blades and have a modest collection. I also have an interest in guns and do shoot Also, what I want from government is to mostly stay away.

When it comes to personal interactions I tend to have two modes.

One I term "deer in the headlights." Basically, I have no idea what to say. I freeze. It's not just a matter of I need a second to think, I really just have no clue what words should come out of my mouth. I have had folk tell me that this comes off as brusque or downright rude. And, well, I'm not intending to be it's just that a combination of social anxiety and utter cluelessness causes me to freeze. You can be my best friend in the world and I still have no idea what to say.

The second mode is when you get me going on a subject I'm passionate about. Then, the problem is the exact opposite; getting me to shut up. I get motivated about the topic and...well, that just takes over.

There are a couple of lesser modes for special situations as well.

The first of these is "polite greeting." "Hi." "How are you." "Nice day." "Things going well?" "Take care. Have a nice day." Basically "canned" phrases (which doesn't mean that they aren't well meant) that I have sometimes heard described as "polite noises." I can do that. I can even be sincere about it. It's just, you run out of those pretty quickly.

The last is "on stage presence" which is what I use when doing panels at cons or when doing training related to my work. It's sort of a toned-down version of mode 2 that relies on the more formal structure of a panel discussion or a training session to keep me from going overboard as I am wont to do without that structure.

The observant reader will note that what's lacking in there is a "mode" that is useful for social interactions, in particular for meeting new people. It is no great surprise that virtually all of my friends are folk I've met through science fiction conventions and thus were able to interact with initially via "on stage presence". Online also comes closer to that "on stage" than any in person interactions and, so is behind most of the _rest_ of my friends--those I didn't meet through cons, I "met" online. Indeed, I tend to be a lot more "open" online than I'd ever dream of being face to face with all but my absolutely closest friends.

And this lack is one of the major challenges of my life: how to actually meet and get to know people in "meat space" beyond the rote (although never empty, not for me) pleasantries.
Zodie Capricorn

Aspect și situația Care este situația dvs. actuală? Descrieți aspectul dvs..

Tipul corpului meu este Categoria grea
Înălțimea mea este 5' 9 (1.75 m)
Ochii mei sunt Albaștri
Sunt de etnie caucaziană
Starea mea civilă este Divorțat(ă)
Am copii Da - Acasă
Doresc copii Da
Body Art Străpuns... Dar numai ureche(i)
Părul meu este Altele
Am mai multe de asta Câine, Animal exotic
Dispus să mă mut Nu

Mai multe despre el

Ce gen de muzică vă place cel mai mult? Altele
Care este trupă dvs. preferată? Probably The Sisters of Mercy, or any one of several gothic/symphonic metal bands
Cine este scriitorul dvs. preferat? Hard to say. Who have I read most recently?
Cine este personajul dvs. preferat din literatură? This may seem odd, but Batman
Care este cel mai bun site despre cultura Goth? YouTube channels like Toxic Tears'.

Status Cu ce vă ocupați?

Nivelul meu de educație este Diplomă de Universitate
Starea mea forței de muncă actuală este Cu normă întreagă
Specializarea mea este Cercetare / Știința / Inginerie
Denumirea postului meu de muncă este Sr. Analytical Scientist
Salariul meu anual este 60,000$ - 74,999$
Eu trăiesc Cu un copil (copii), Cu un animal (animale) de companie
acasă Liniște totală
Fumez Nu
Beau Da - 1 sau 2

Personalitate Cum acționați? Care sunt gusturile dvs?

În liceu am fost Tocilar
Comportamentul meu social este Închis, Timid
Interesele și hobby-urile mele sunt Citire, Muzică, Tv , Internet , Pescuit / Vânătoare
Distracția bună pentru mine este Cu prietenii, Încercarea de lucruri noi, Citind o carte, La un muzeu
O prima întâlnire perfectă ar fi Something interesting, like a museum or other place where we can talk but where there's something to do if conversation lags.
Întotdeauna am vrut să încerc Skydiving, SCUBA diving, exploring places nobody's been before.

Vizualizări Vederi în viață.

Religia mea este Agnostică
Particip la servicii Niciodată
Scopul meu în viață este To make some small mark in the world.
Genul meu de umor este Sec / Sarcastic, Tainic

Gust Ce vă place?

La TV întotdeauna mă uit la Drame
Când mă duc la filme, mereu merg pentru a vedea Acțiune, Științifico-fantastic, Comedie , Romantism, Dramă, Animație, De groază, De aventuri
Când ascult muzică, mereu ascult Rock , Metal
Când citesc, eu citesc Fantezie , Ficțiune, De groază, Științifico-fantastic, Sunt un autor, Romantism

În căutare de Ce căutați în sufletul dvs. pereche?

Ce vi se pare atractiv? Sensibilitate, Umor, Grija, Inteligență
Ce căutați? I'll be honest. I'm not sure. Part of what I'm looking for is to find out what I'm looking for.
Ce fel de relație doriți? Prieten, Partener de întâlniri, Intim